The first time I heard this expression “If wishes were horses, beggars would ride,” I didn’t get it right away–I thought I was missing something. Then I realized it tells us “don’t bother simply wishing for something if you’re not going to do anything about making it happen.” In other words, wishes alone are folly.
Sounds like good advice. After all, a wish is often described as a “goal without a plan,” and I don’t know about you, but in my experience, not having a plan is a terrible plan.
Then there’s the cautionary proverb that tells us to be careful what we wish for, lest we get it.
It’s true we need to take actual care in choosing our words. Our words are powerful because they are expressions of our thoughts, and because they become our actions. Our actions determine our reality.
When talking about wishes, it’s difficult to forget the traditions of wishing upon shooting stars or breaking off the better half of the wishbone on a Thanksgiving turkey. Think about that, though–the idea of having a wish come true is considered so unrealistic that it’s been simply left up to the random chance of seeing the elusive shooting star or having a better grip on the fourth Thursday of November.
So I’ve tried to not use the word wish so often. I’ve curbed that kind of thinking and made an effort to replace it with a thought process that is more creative, one that will help me actually create my life the way I want to live it.
In practical terms, there’s no more waiting for opportunities to present themselves, no more wishing for things or experiences; there is only creating the opportunities for myself and making my own plans.
But I don’t mean to imply that wishes are bad, or that I’ve stopped wishing. Having a wish or a dream is important–anything really is possible. It’s just that I think it’s a good idea to do more than wish. Only sometimes it can be difficult to remember that . . . old habits do indeed die hard.
Recently I came across this necklace in a shop.
And as much as I had been thinking about wishes, it made me smile.
There is was–a way to remind myself that wishes are good–and pretty. But they are things of which we must be conscious, with which we must be careful, and which we should actively wear if we want to see them realized.
So, yes, I bought it.
And when I put it on I think about what I wish for, what my goals are.
Most importantly, I think about how I make wishes, and what I will do to make my wishes and goals as real as the one around my neck.